Are you currently accepting new clients?

Yes. We are currently welcoming new individual and couples clients across Virginia, Florida, Washington DC, and Maryland — both in person at our Fairfax, VA and Miami, FL offices and via secure telehealth.

What happens during the free consultation?

The free 15-minute consultation is a low-pressure phone call. We'll talk briefly about what brings you in, answer any questions you have about our approach, and help you figure out which therapist might be the best fit. There's no commitment required — it's just a conversation.

How do I schedule a free consultation?

The easiest way is to use our online booking link — you can pick a time that works in about 60 seconds. Click Book a Free Consultation in the navigation bar, or visit our Schedule page. If you'd prefer to reach out first, you can also use our contact page and we'll respond within one business day.

What should I expect in my first paid session?

Your first session is mostly intake — your therapist will ask about your background, what's bringing you in, your goals, and any relevant history. You won't be expected to go deep on your first visit. Think of it as a mutual conversation to understand each other and establish a direction. Sessions are 45–50 minutes depending on your therapist.

What actually happens in a sex therapy session? Will I be asked to do anything sexual?

No — and this is the most common misconception about sex therapy. Sessions are fully clothed, conducted in a standard therapy office or via secure video, and there is no physical contact of any kind. We talk: about your experiences, emotions, relationships, history, and goals. You may be given exercises to practice privately at home between sessions, but nothing happens in the room that wouldn't happen in any other form of therapy.

What is the difference between sex therapy and regular therapy?

Sex therapy is a specialized form of psychotherapy focused on sexual health, functioning, and intimacy. Our therapists hold advanced credentials — including AASECT certification — that go well beyond standard licensure. This training equips them to address concerns like sexual dysfunction, desire discrepancy, sexual trauma, and intimacy in ways that most general therapists are not trained or equipped to do.

Can I come alone if my partner won't join me?

Absolutely. Individual sex therapy is effective and appropriate even when a partner isn't present or isn't ready to participate. Many clients work through deeply personal concerns — sexual trauma, low desire, anxiety, body image, or sexual dysfunction — entirely on their own. If couples work becomes relevant later, that's a conversation we can have when the time is right.

Do I have to talk about things I'm not ready to discuss?

No. You set the pace. Our therapists are trained to follow your lead, and you are never pressured to share more than you're comfortable with. Building a sense of safety in the room is always the first priority — the deeper work follows from there.

How long does therapy typically take?

It depends on your goals. Some clients address a focused concern in 8–12 sessions. Others work with us for a year or more on deeper relational or trauma-related issues. Your therapist will discuss realistic timelines with you early on, and you'll revisit them as the work evolves. Progress is always the measure — not time.

How often will we meet?

Weekly sessions are our standard recommendation. Consistent, regular sessions tend to produce the most meaningful and lasting progress. Bi-weekly scheduling is available in some circumstances. We generally don't recommend monthly sessions — the gap between appointments limits continuity and momentum.

Is everything I share completely confidential?

Yes. Everything discussed in sessions is strictly confidential under HIPAA and professional ethics standards. There are narrow, legally required exceptions — such as if we have reason to believe someone is in immediate danger — and your therapist will explain these clearly in your first session. What you share about your sexuality, relationships, history, or identity will never be disclosed without your explicit written consent.

I'm embarrassed to talk about sex with a stranger. Is that normal?

Completely normal — and expected. Most clients feel some version of this before their first session, and many describe it as the thing they were most worried about. Our therapists have heard it all, and they're specifically trained to make these conversations feel less daunting over time. The free 15-minute consultation is a good first step: a short, low-stakes call that lets you get a sense of us before committing to anything.

Do you work with LGBTQ+ clients and non-traditional relationship structures?

Yes, wholeheartedly. Cushing Counseling is an affirming, judgment-free practice. We welcome clients of all sexual orientations, gender identities, and relationship structures — including non-monogamous, polyamorous, and kink-aware individuals and couples. You do not need to explain or justify who you are here. Our therapists are trained in LGBTQ+ affirming care and approach every client with genuine respect and curiosity.

Do you work with individuals, couples, or both?

Both. We offer individual therapy, couples therapy, and integrated couples and sex therapy. Some clients start individually and bring a partner in later. Others come as a couple from the start. We'll help you figure out the right format during your free consultation.

What does therapy cost?

Session rates vary by therapist: Vanessa Cushing, LPC, CST (AASECT Certified) — $350 / 50 min. Radiance Sanneman, LCPC — $210 / 50 min. Alexandria Da Ponte Cheatham — $175 / 50 min. Noelle Harris, LMSW — $165 / 45 min individual, $220 / couples session. Every new client receives a complimentary 15-minute telephone consultation at no cost.

Do you accept insurance?

We are a private-pay, out-of-network practice and do not bill insurance directly. However, we partner with Thrizer, which allows many clients to use their out-of-network mental health benefits automatically — so you may pay significantly less than the full session rate, depending on your plan.

What is Thrizer and how does it work?

Thrizer is a service that verifies your out-of-network insurance coverage upfront and collects only your estimated share at the time of service. They file the claim automatically after each appointment and your reimbursement comes directly from your insurer. No superbill wrangling, no waiting on reimbursements, no paperwork on your end.

Can I get a superbill to submit to my insurance myself?

Yes. We can provide a superbill at any time — a detailed receipt that includes diagnosis codes, procedure codes, and your therapist's credentials. Just ask your therapist and we'll generate one for any session.

Do you offer sliding scale or reduced rates?

We have a limited number of reduced-fee spots available. If cost is a barrier to starting therapy, please mention it during your free consultation and we'll do our best to find an option that works.

What is your cancellation policy?

We ask for at least 24 hours' notice to cancel or reschedule. Late cancellations and no-shows may be charged the full session fee. We understand that life happens — please just reach out as soon as you know.

What payment methods do you accept?

All fees are collected via credit card on the day of your session, automatically. Your card is kept securely on file — there are no invoices or checks to manage.

Where are your offices located?

We have two physical locations: Fairfax, Virginia — 12875 Yates Ford Rd, Clifton, VA 20124. Miami, Florida — 244 Biscayne Blvd, Miami, FL 33132. We also see clients throughout Virginia, Florida, Washington DC, and Maryland via secure telehealth.

Do you offer online therapy?

Yes. All of our therapists offer HIPAA-compliant telehealth sessions via secure video. Many clients prefer telehealth for the flexibility and privacy it offers. Session quality and fees are the same whether you meet in person or online.

Is telehealth as effective as in-person therapy?

Research consistently shows that telehealth is equally effective as in-person therapy for the concerns we treat — including sexual dysfunction, trauma, desire issues, and relationship challenges. Many clients actually find it easier to open up from the comfort and privacy of their own space.

What states do you serve via telehealth?

We are currently licensed to see telehealth clients in Virginia, Florida, Washington DC, and Maryland. If you are located outside these states, reach out and we can discuss your options or provide a referral.

How do I choose which therapist to work with?

Start with our About Us page to read about each therapist's training, style, and areas of focus. Practical factors like fee and availability matter too. If you're not sure, mention it during your free consultation — we'll help match you with the best fit. It's also completely fine to try a first session and reassess.

What is AASECT certification?

AASECT stands for the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists. The AASECT Certified Sex Therapist credential is the gold standard in the field. Earning it requires a master's or doctoral degree in a mental health discipline, hundreds of hours of specialized training in human sexuality, supervised clinical hours with a certified supervisor, and ongoing continuing education. Vanessa Cushing holds this certification, placing her among a small number of AASECT-certified sex therapists in the country.

What specialties does the practice cover?

Cushing Counseling therapists collectively specialize in sex therapy and sexual dysfunction, couples therapy and intimacy, trauma therapy and sexual trauma recovery, LGBTQ+ affirming care, and Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy.

Identity · 5 min read

Am I asexual? How to tell, and what it means

Only you can decide what fits — but here is how people usually think it through.

Written and clinically reviewed by Vanessa Cushing, LPC, NCC, MS — AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist, licensed in Virginia & Florida. The Cushing Counseling team covers Virginia, DC, Maryland & Florida.

Two glazed ceramic vessels standing close together, casting overlapping shadows

The short answer

Asexual people experience little or no sexual attraction to others. It is a sexual orientation, not a medical problem, and there is no test that can tell you if you are asexual — only you can decide whether the word fits. A useful question is whether you have ever felt drawn to someone sexually, not whether you have sex or enjoy it.

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If you want to explore your identity, or figure out a relationship where desire differs, we can help without any agenda.

What asexuality is

Asexuality describes little or no sexual attraction. It is about attraction, not behaviour: some asexual people have sex, some enjoy it, some never want it. Many asexual people still want romance, closeness and partnership.

"Ace" is a common short form, and the ace spectrum includes related identities such as demisexual (attraction only after a strong emotional bond) and grey-asexual (attraction that is rare or faint).

Questions people often ask themselves

There are no right answers. Identity can be explored over time, and it is fine to try a label and later let it go.

When friends talk about finding someone "hot", do I understand what they mean from experience?
Have I ever looked at someone and wanted them sexually?
If I have sex, is it mostly for closeness, curiosity or a partner — rather than attraction?
Does the word asexual, demisexual or grey-ace bring relief when I read it?

Asexuality vs. low desire

These can look similar but are different things. Low desire usually means interest in sex has dropped compared with before, often alongside stress, health changes, pain, medications or relationship strain — and it bothers the person.

Asexuality is usually lifelong and is part of who someone is. The DSM-5, the diagnostic manual clinicians use, says a lifelong lack of desire that is better explained by asexual identity should not be diagnosed as a desire disorder.

	Asexuality	Low desire
What it is	A sexual orientation	A change or drop in interest
Typical timeline	Often lifelong	Often a change from before
Needs fixing?	No	Only if it causes distress

When a sex therapist can help

Therapy never tries to change someone's orientation. It can help you explore identity without pressure, work through shame or confusion, or help an ace person and a non-ace partner find a relationship that works for both — including how much, and what kind of, physical intimacy you share.

Frequently asked questions

Can asexual people have sex?

Yes. Asexuality is about attraction, not behaviour. Some asexual people have and enjoy sex, some are indifferent, and some are not interested at all.

Can asexual people fall in love?

Yes. Many asexual people experience romantic attraction and want partnership. Some are also aromantic, meaning they experience little romantic attraction.

Is asexuality caused by trauma or hormones?

Asexuality is an orientation, not a symptom. If your interest in sex changed after trauma, illness or a medication, that is worth exploring with a therapist or doctor, but it is a different question.

My partner just told me they are asexual. Is our relationship over?

Not necessarily. Many mixed ace and non-ace couples build lasting relationships. A sex therapist can help you both talk openly about needs and options.

Can I do this therapy online?

Yes. Sex therapy is talk therapy, so it works well by secure video. The Cushing Counseling team sees clients in Virginia, Maryland, Washington, DC and Florida, and Dr. Elizabeth Wolfe sees clients online in 43 PSYPACT states.

Keep reading

LGBTQ+ affirming therapy
Low desire & mismatched libido
Desire discrepancy therapy — When one of you wants sex more than the other.
Why pressure kills sexual desire

Also on this site

Book a free consultation — Fifteen minutes, no pressure to continue.
Sex therapist near me — How to find a certified specialist.

Clinical resources this page draws on

AVEN — The Asexual Visibility & Education Network — The largest asexual community and education resource.
AASECT — Find a certified sex therapist — Useful if you live outside the states our team serves.

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